An Imperfect Role Model

By Winnie Yu for Completely You



As a mother, I used to think I had to set the perfect example, especially since I have two daughters. I had to work hard. I had to eat the healthiest foods. I had to dress well. I always had to arrive on time. I had to be nice. I could never tell a lie. I had to donate money to anyone who ever asked. And I could never mutter a bad word, even during life’s most frustrating moments.

Striving for perfection, however, was exhausting. It was also impossible to achieve. Take the time my daughter Annie and I got rear ended by a reckless driver last year on our way home from a piano lesson. A few choice words slipped out of my mouth that day. Annie quickly learned that her mom was hardly “perfect” and never would be.

And that, I decided, is okay.

Even the most perfect among us are hardly perfect. We get angry. We get grumpy. We snap. We judge. Simply put, we don’t always do what’s considered the right thing. Most of the time, however, we’re just decent people, trying to do the best we can. I call it being human.

Letting my daughters see my imperfections gives them -- and me -- room to breathe and allows them be the imperfect people they are. It frees them up to relax a little when they mess up. It also teaches them to forgive others when they are imperfect and to move on with the bigger picture in mind.

Does that mean there are things I’ve done that I don’t regret? Absolutely not. Does it mean I think it’s okay to be rude, inconsiderate and crass? Not at all. What it does mean is that I don’t pressure myself to always do the right thing, even when I know my kids are watching me.

Freeing myself from the strict standards of perfectionism allows me to relax and teaches my kids the best lesson of all: no one is perfect.

And that’s perfectly fine by me.

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Winnie Yu is Completely You’s mom blogger. She has two daughters (Samantha, 14, and Annie, 12) and is the author of seven books, including New Mother’s Guide to Breastfeeding and What to Eat for What Ails You. Her work has appeared in numerous publications, including Woman’s Day, AARP Bulletin, Prevention and WebMD.com.

Just Say No to Climbing Food Prices

By Winnie Yu for Completely You



The other day, I picked up a bag of dried mangoes -- a new-to-me snack that I’ve recently grown to love -- and realized that most of the bag was filled with air. In essence, I was paying $4.29 for a few mango slices and plenty of air. That’s when I said “No more” and put the bag back on the shelf.

These days, we’re all experiencing leaps in food costs. And if you’re like me, you’re probably feeling powerless. But the truth is that consumers do have a voice. We can say no.

It was last year when it dawned on me just how rapidly food prices are climbing. I found a box of stale graham crackers in my pantry that was only about a year old and priced at $1.98. When I went to the store to pick up a fresh box, the price had gone up to $2.49. OK, so it’s only a 51-cent price hike. But consider the percentage increase in cost: 26 percent!

I don’t know about you guys, but my income hasn’t seen that kind of a hike since the year I swapped my babysitting gigs for a “real job” working at a clothing shop in my local mall. Having to pay that much more for food seems outrageous.

Sure, there are some necessities that I will buy no matter how much they go up, though I may certainly buy less of them. But I’m also learning to say no to certain foods that are simply too much money. For instance, I no longer buy cereal that isn’t a generic store brand, on sale or accompanied by a coupon. I rarely buy dried cranberries, and multigrain pasta is no longer an option.

Saying no to high-priced foods is the only power we have as consumers. Because food manufacturers will continue to demand we pay more … until we say “No more!”
How do you feel about climbing food prices?

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Winnie Yu is Completely You’s mom blogger. She has two daughters (Samantha, 14, and Annie, 12) and is the author of seven books, including New Mother’s Guide to Breastfeeding and What to Eat for What Ails You. Her work has appeared in numerous publications, including Woman’s Day, AARP Bulletin, Prevention and WebMD.com.